Learning the lessons from the harsh realities in life

Lorna was in tears, after having been so elated just a few days ago, she felt devastated, betrayed and deflated. Six long years had she been waiting and preparing for the moment and in one hour, her whole dream seemed to lay shattered at her feet. The man she had been seeing had finally decided to stay with his wife, even though he had assured my friend he loved her, and was prepared to leave his wife.

Six years had it taken to come to the culmination and courage to set divorce in motion. Six years of her thinking ‘will he, won’t he?’, six years of an hour here, an hour there with him, but invariably, him going back to his wife. Six years of sweet moments with him.

Six years of hope, and love and planning of a future. ‘If only’, when only. Thomas was with her all night to comfort her, Thomas, the loving father of her two sons, Thomas with whom she had a spiritual connection, could talk to for hours, but for whom she felt no burning desire and passion as she had felt for Jim. Jim was adventure, exciting, passionate love making. Thomas was deep, a friend, but nothing more. Six years ago, she left Thomas, they shared the boys and that was good. They had a deep friendship and Thomas was always there for her when she fell. Lorna realised that although life with Jim seemed more of an exciting journey, the only thing she really wanted for him was to be happy. Through her tears she decided to work through her emotions, and also to let Jim go and set him free to pursue whatever he needed to pursue, at the same time to allow herself to pursue her happiness.

Although early days, Lorna realised that six years on a life time is not really all that much, that she had relearned to love and to give and certainly to be patient! Even if life does not turn out the way you have planned can it still be worth while. Lorna committed to being extra nice to herself, and anytime she felt an emotion come up, to ask what it was here to teach her and tell her. She decided to honour herself, love herself and forgive herself.